Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Trusting

I'm going to ask a very dumb question....
but when I ask it, I know it will in some way make me
feel a million times better.


Does anyone ever feel like they 
should be at 
a different point in life
than they are right now?


Friends, I'm struggling with just that right now.
I'm struggling with the fact that I am coming to terms with knowing
I made it around that track of newly wed years a bit faster than the hubs.

And quite frankly...
it sucks.

*Everything I am saying in this is nothing that hasn't been said to my love,
so it's not like I'm rambling off this stuff without telling him first.*
{that would be a little awkward}

If anyone is reading my blog for the first time,
I'll say it again.
I want a baby.
I want to start that chapter.
I want a family.
And I want that family with him.


But my sweetie...my handsome man, my one and only...
seems to be enjoying our baby freedom thoroughly right now.
And I'm having to respect that and trust that the reason he is
wanting to wait for that precious baby is because he knows it will be that much better 
when that chapter comes to life for us.


But luckily, I have these little reminders that make all the difference in the world...






Thank you, friends for 
listening....err...reading. :)


{xo}



12 comments:

Lea said...

Elizabeth, first off your question is in no way dumb because of course we all feel this way at times. Secondly, let me say take this time to enjoy your husband. Really savor life with just the two of you. Parenthood is amazing and wonderful, but you can't go back. Once you add that you will never again be the couple that can take off for a trip without planning. Leave in the middle of the night for ice cream. Or splurge on something big that you want without thinking first about whether or no the kids need something. Take this time to make yourselves a home and let him see and know the woman that you are. You love each other, I should hope, hence the marriage...but through this time of "just the two of you" that love will grow deeper. And with that deeper love, I promise will come his desire to see you as the mother of his children. And won't it be wonderful to hear him tell you that and know that he won't regret the decision because you are both ready? Good luck and stay trusting in God.

mama marchand said...

Thanks for your honesty, friend. It's a tough decision and a big one, deciding to start a family. I can tell you from experience that both of you have to be on board with it or it turns into something unenjoyable and stressful. Feel free to email me if you want to chat about it!

Praying!

Kim said...

I think our boat was made from the same tree, woman! Hang in there!

Sarah said...

It's hard to reign in that baby fever! Having been on both sides, though, I can tell you life changes so drastically when you do have a baby and there will be a lot of things you can't do anymore. So... maybe just try to enjoy your child-free time to the fullest while you can :). Although I know that's awfully hard when you really really want a baby! Does your hubby have a timeline in mind? Is it something you could compromise on?

Neely said...

We should def talk seriously. I want to get married and Chad isnt ready. I hate that we are on different pages. Hang in there girl!

honeydos said...

I'm in the baby fever club too! I'm trying to enjoy the spontaneity and our time together because I know I'll miss that once we do have a baby. Just remember that boys take longer to mature ;)

Rebecca said...

I feel that way a lot. I'm no where near where I thought I'd be at my age.

My husband and I are complete opposite from you and your husband. He's the one that really wants to go ahead and have a baby, and I'm the one that's not so sure. It's not that I don't want one, but we've only been married for about a year. And part of me is just scared too.

I'm sure that you and your husband will be able to work through this. I'll be praying for you!

Heather said...

Same thing here. Two years in, I said I was ready. I still remember standing in the doorway of the office with my puppy dog face gushing over how cute and precious a baby would be and saying "dawwwwwhh" like a million times and Mark was looking at me lovingly shaking his head NO!. LOL
God's timing is PERFECT. I could not have handled the stress of it all at that time. SO glad we waited.

Krista said...

Not sure I have much good advise to offer except that yes, do your best to trust in God. I wanted marriage and kids before my husband felt ready but looking back I can't say that I regret God's timing. He knows what he's doing!

Praying you and your husband continue to work through it with love, understanding, and respect of one another.

Breanna said...

Thoughts and prayers, Elizabeth! Kevin and I are both ready, and have been trying for a year now with no success, so that is our stress for us.

I know that it is so hard to wait when it is something you really, truly want. You have a wonderful husband and I know things will work out! :)

Hang in there! Praying for you guys! XOXO!

Amanda said...

Bill & I were married 5 years before Grant and it was the greatest thing ever!We didn't plan it that way but we really enjoyed the freedom of no kids. Just enjoy being with your hubby and grow your relationship b/c after kids, especially babies, your time with him is limited and you have to work harder to mae time for each other. You really are where God wants you to be! Hang in there!

McKinley {Haolepinos} said...

If I can put my two cents in. And was in this exact place so you know that I can relate and am coming from a good place.

But I truly believe that God bestows the desire in woman to start a family because we know when the timing is right. If you look at how woman are emotionally designed it makes so much sense that the women would first want a child then the man. Men are never ready, the do not have that same maternal instinct and desire. Even when the baby is born there are things that only a mother will pick up on and know what to do, and the dad is walking around trying to figure out how they can help. I have seen this multiple times in new families.

We were only married for 6 months when we found out we were pregnant. We wanted to wait 2 years, we were 2 days shy of knowing each other for a whole year when we found out we were expecting. You by nature in every single way will want a child before your husband! That I know is true. My husband was not pleased, or thrilled with the news, in fact he was a wreck. And I can promise you that it has made our lives richer, better, and we feel blessed in every aspect because I didn't deny the feeling I had about getting pregnant. And yes, our little guy was a surprise because of one simple tiny mistake... that was made on my behalf and BAM we were pregnant. I hope that this is making sense.

My point is, even if the man isn't ready, it doesn't mean you have to wait. Everything works out the way it is suppose to, and if you allow there to be a window... even a smaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaall chance for there to get pregnant, you will if it is right. And it will always work out because children are blessings. And God will protect and support you for doing the right thing. And remember the right thing will more likely be the hardest thing... because it is hard!

If you ever want to chat more about the topic feel free to email me. I was here in your shoes 18 months ago! I hope I am not stepping on any toes, I just had to share with you my experience, testimony, and belief of starting a family!!!

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